I mentioned the book The Energy Bus by Jon Gordon in my last post and want to share one aspect of the book that has been very applicable to my work and life.

At one point towards the beginning of the book, the main character gets the idea to ask his children “their success of the day. He explained that it could be something great that had happened to them that day or something they were proud of” (p. 54).

Since reading that, I have used this with clients and people in my life. As an example, I worked with someone who was feeling disconnected from their father. Instead of the typical, “how was your day,” my client asked, “what was the highlight of your day?” By asking that, the two of them were able to have a more substantial conversation than they had been having recently.

The best part of this exercise is that it immediately brings positive energy to the conversation and you can watch someone’s face light up as they speak. It also helps two people connect in a way they may not be used to, and can become a daily ritual.

If this sounds different from your nightly routine with your family and friends, I encourage you to give it a try!